There’s a lot of talk about self-love these days, but it goes far beyond just being *comfortable in your own skin* + being confident in your physical appearance. It’s more than just being okay with the way you look today, or being able to rattle off your three biggest strengths or favorite features.
So what exactly is self-love? What does it mean to love yourself, + what does that look like? More importantly, what does it feel like to love yourself? While it looks + feels a bit different for each of us, there are a couple of ways you can begin practicing self-love…
FORGIVE YOURSELF //
Truly loving yourself means being able to forgive yourself. You’re going to make a few [million] mistakes in your lifetime. You’ll skip workouts, judge someone unfairly, make selfish decisions. We’re all going to do things we aren’t proud of at one point or another, + we’re going to be upset with ourselves. You’ll beat yourself up about all the junk food you ate or the rude comment you made about your friend, but self-love means having the strength not to. Self-love is forgiveness — of yourself. You are only human. Be kind to yourself. Love yourself enough to accept your setbacks + learn from them.
MAKE A PROMISE //
+ it’s a hard one to keep. Self-love is a challenge. You have to work at it every single day, + some days will be better than others. It’s a journey + it’s a life-long learning experience. Self-love is a promise that you will always strive for growth, that you will make time to take care of yourself + appreciate yourself, that you will give your full attention to yourself when you need it the most. It’s learning the power of saying *no* in a world that constantly demands *yes*. It’s giving yourself the respect you deserve. It’s believing in yourself + your purpose. Self-love is a promise to yourself, that you are going to put yourself first + be in tune with your mental, emotional + physical well-being.
BE BRAVE ENOUGH TO BE VULNERABLE //
It takes courage to love yourself whole-heartedly. Like any relationship, the relationship that you have with yourself requires you to put yourself out there for someone [yourself!]. Self-love is a commitment. You can’t be afraid to love yourself fully. The insecurities, the negative self-talk + the *I can’t*s are rooted in the fear that stands in the way of your commitment to love yourself. Self-love means being vulnerable. Living confidently without seeking the approval of others. Acknowledging + being open with yourself about your weaknesses + flaws but refusing to let them hinder you from nurturing the relationship you have with yourself. + that is one of the bravest things that we can do.
+ Christina [@christi_inchaarg] // OSU CHAARG