We all know what it’s like to feel overwhelmed in the face of a major decision. This is even more apparent when we begin to feel stuck in a situation where we are challenged to keep going. We may see failure as not an option + see continuing on to be what seems like a dead-end path just as damaging. It is hard to decide when it is time to put yourself//your feelings first ++ possibly move forward.
Here are some questions to ask yourself + things to think about before you make that big decision.
1] WHY DID YOU PURSUE THIS IN THE FIRST PLACE?
Whether it’s a job, dream, goal, friendship — try + remember what gravitated you toward it in the first place. What inspired you to begin? Where were you in your life when you were first confronted with this situation? Thinking back on how it all started can offer some much needed perspective on the situation ++ may help you fall in love with it again.
2] IS IT MAKING YOU A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF?
Is this situation serving you in a major way? Sometimes things that you aren’t too thrilled about [like a high paying job when you need the money] are making *you* a better version of *yourself*. Is it challenging you in a good way by teaching you new lessons//skills — or has it gone too far? Sometimes you need to put your well being first — it could be hurting you more than it is contributing to your life. Only you can make this decision — reflect on how this situation makes you feel, while making your valuable time ++ energy a priority.
3] HOW DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL?
You control your feelings — sometimes it feels like the only thing we can control. So what are these feelings? What is your attitude toward the subject? Think about a time when you are directly influenced by this situation — are you satisfied + comfortable? Perhaps it feels harmful ++ only upsets you. Sometimes our feelings are exactly what is overwhelming us — devoting some thought to them is an important step in making a decision with a clear head. What does your gut tell you? Without solely relying on impulse, it can still be beneficial to think about what you would choose if you *had* to choose right now.
4] HAVE YOU GIVEN IT YOUR ALL?
Have you tried as hard as you can to make it work despite the lingering feeling that you should quit? If you have given it your all you can leave feeling happy about your decision to move on if need be. It’s possible that it’s just not for you — but often things need a little extra #werk in order to be successful.
6] ARE YOU BEING INSPIRED?
Does it inspire you to keep going + translate to other aspects of your life? When we are no longer ignited by an idea it can damage our productivity + positivity. Is there a possibility that this situation will grow + change in time on its own? If it’s not all #badvibes, reflect on how important the #goodvibes are to you personally [*pros + cons*].
7] WHAT IS THE OUTCOME?
What will giving up on this situation affect? Will you be worse off afterward? For example — if you quit this job, what happens next? Looking forward can be a great way to figure out how serious your feelings are. If you feel like you still need to give up regardless of the outcome or it is possibly damaging to your life then something needs to change. It can also give you some comfort reminding you that giving up *is* okay. Maybe, just maybe you’ll realize you *need* this end result — in which case you can do this.
8] EMBRACE FAILURE — DON’T FEAR IT
Don’t let the fear of failure get in your way — sometimes you have to fail *thousands of times* in order to succeed. This can all be a part of the growing process — in any situation what you’ve learned along the way can be just as important as your destination. Keep in mind that while you may not reach that goal, if you appreciate + recognize the lessons to be had from failure + embrace it — you will make the right decision.
Your decision to keep going or give up *will* have an affect on your future — but that doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. Put your feelings on the front burner + embrace your decision because you know what is best for you. Don’t hold on to something distant. What may have once been important may not be as important anymore + this is just a *growing pain* — it is all part of life’s natural balance.
Remember that you *can* do this while not forgetting to make yourself a priority. Do what’s right for you + all will fall into place.
++Abigail [@abigail.inchaarg] // UK CHAARG