Moving Forward + Making Friends *Post-College*
So, you’ve just graduated [congratulations!] + you’ve found an amazing new job in a new city. Everything is falling into place — you love where you’re relocating, your job is an amazing opportunity + the apartment you snagged is in the perfect neighborhood. But something’s still missing — solo trips around your area to find the perfect coffee shops aren’t cutting it anymore + you’re getting bored of barre//brunch by yourself. What’s next?
Sure a lot is ending — including being with your besties 24/7 — but it’s just the beginning. That’s not to say it isn’t a big step — but you should be proud + excited for your new chapter. While it’s no secret that your years of being thrown into group projects with people in your major + the fitness events on your campus are coming to an end, but making friends *post-college* may not be as daunting as you think.
Here’s a few tips on how to make friends post-grad + even make it a great experience —
1] FIND NEW PLACES
This likely is the first time you haven’t belonged to an institution where you’re around so many similar people. But that doesn’t have to be a bad thing — your slate is clean. Harness the fact that you’re on your own from your college crew + are in need of a new routine. Use this to your advantage + step out of your comfort zone by trying a new juice bar or workout studio often. You know you love yoga — but after trying several, you may find that there is one studio that stands out among the rest because you love the people.
2] SAY YES
While it’s important to understand the power of *no*, in a brand new situation like moving to a new place saying yes can bring forth so much change + excitement. By trying lots of new things, not only can you meet new people, but you can transform yourself. Try a cooking class even if you’re more of a microwave babe + broaden your horizons. Not having a squad yet doesn’t mean you can’t discover more about yourself — this will open your options to entirely new kind of people ++ who knows, maybe you’re a great cook! ; )
3] MEET FRIENDS OF FRIENDS
Ask your family, college or high school friends if they know anyone in your new city. It’s great to meet people who can connect you with things you may like in your new city, or even introduce you to some other locals — perhaps they know people who just moved there + are also in the same boat. Either way, grabbing a drink after work with someone you mutually know will help you branch out + get out of your comfort zone.
4] GET TO KNOW COWORKERS
While it may seem tough to be a newbie at first [especially if you’re in a new city], take advantage of the fact that your coworkers probably know your situation very well. Join them at lunch + happy hour ++ get to know them outside of the work environment. When you find something you have in common utilize it! Even if it’s something as small as the fact that you both love cycling, take a ride together at their favorite studio — you could find that this is another great, new beginning.
6] SURROUND YOURSELF WITH LIKE MINDED PEOPLE
While this one may seem obvious, it’s still important to mention. Check out your local events for festivals + meetups that draw in people with similar interests to you — if you love music, find a live music restaurant! It’s easy to spark great conversations with people who truly understand you. Not only can you make new friends, but you could find something you love outside of your job that will only further your networks in the future — chat up the vendors at the next festival you go to + get involved!
Use your favorite form of social media to connect + find things you love in your area. Connecting with other people via the internet is becoming more + more popular! Spark Insta-convos with girls hashtagging your favorite spot. Also, stay in touch with your fellow CHAARG babes on social media + find out what girls are in your city! If you’re not a virtCHAARG member yet, become one here + find an amazing online community of girls. Your new best friend may even live nearby!
Your options are endless — likely for the first time in your life! Embrace this new chapter + make the most of it.
++ Abigail [abigail.inchaarg] // UK CHAARG