Meditating With Flies
I’ve been in a meditation program since September, + while I’m supposed to be meditating for 20 minutes every day… I’ve been slacking hardcore. Life gets in the way, you know? It’s funny how when you are *too busy* for meditation, that’s when you need it the most.
I was on a pretty remote hike, when I saw a few flat rocks near a stream [meditating to water sounds is one of my fav <3], ++ thought, it’s time to start meditating consistently again.
So, I sat on a rock, set my Insight Timer to 10 minutes ++ closed my eyes.
A couple breathes in, + a fly lands on my arm. I shake it off. Not even one second later, + two flies land on my leg. I open my eyes + look at them, annoyingly… stop bothering me. ++ then there was the constant fly swarming my face…
I asked myself — what would it look like if I worked with the flies? I decided to let them crawl on my skin, + they were really only there for a few moments, until they either jumped on another section of my body or got bored + flew away. I used the flies as a reminder to drop deeper into my practice — instead of allowing outside stimulus to disrupt my meditation.
Then something clicked. I realized that these flies were a metaphor for anything + everything that bothers me. Like flies, there will always be annoyances, but it’s important to not sweat the small stuff.
Complaining [especially about minute things] is such an energy sucker. ++ it’s mind blowing how many conversations start off with complaints. We are socially inclined to say something negative because we bond over these negative emotions… after all, “misery loves company.” I notice that if I’m in a conversation that’s centered around a complaint, “ugh, I hate my job,” or “my boyfriend is being so frustrating” — I search for a complaint within my job//boyfriend//etc. so that I can relate to that person… even sometimes saying things that are extremely exaggerated, or not even true.
Is there a story that you are sharing with others because you want to relate to them? Two things that jump to my mind are being busy + tired.
I have a tendancy to take things personally + allow emotions [good, bad, + everything in between] to get lodged in my heart, instead of allowing them to flow through me. So, when I either hear a complaint [or say it myself], my gut tugs at me. That’s why when I heard about the 21 Day No Complaint Challenge, I was intrigued. The one thing I’m adding to the challenge — if I catch myself complaining, I need to say… ++ I love it! Then drop the complaint immediately. If I hear someone else complain, instead of adding to the conversation, I’ll say, “I’m sorry you’re feeling that way,” “Is there anything I can do to help,” rub their shoulder, etc.
Join the challenge with me ++ let’s stop allowing the flies to prevent us from living our days filled with gratitude.
Rooting for you,