For The *Want-To-Do-Everything* Girl: How To Finish Anything You Start
I’ll admit it — when it comes to not *finishing what i’ve started*, I’m the queen. Long-lost personal blogs litter the internet. Unused supplies from DIYs I never did take over cupboards. + something I hate to admit the most — workouts from this Fall FitPlan have yet to be checked off as *completed* on my ShareItFitness account. Even after college, *actually* completing a task or bringing your plan through fruition can be more daunting than it should be.
First thing — let’s understand why we aren’t finishing what we start, especially if it starts becoming more than just a one-time occurrence. For many of us, we might blame these lost opportunities on classic excuses: not having enough time, not having enough energy, or everyone’s favorite — procrastination. Yet, when we explore this topic further, there’s more to it than just being overcommitted or worse, just lazy. It all points back to the F-word: FEAR. The fear of not being good enough or letting others + // ourselves down dictates our decision-making, always prioritizing the more mundane tasks first — the ones that don’t help us finish what we started + the ones that do not bring us closer to our goals. So, how *exactly* should we push through this fear + materialize our goals?
#1] WHEN YOU START SOMETHING, UNDERSTAND *WHY*
Before you truly commit yourself to this new project, dig deep on why you want to do it. At the onset of a new challenge, everything is exciting. Think about the beginning of the CHAARG FitPlan — newsletters are being sent out, @inchaarg Instagram accounts are made, + the Facebook support group is flooded with introductions, meet-up requests, + more goal-setting than most leadership conferences ; ). But, as the weeks pass, we find ourselves leaning more + more on the community to get through what was much easier during week one. In order to truly accomplish something, our reason for doing so must be intrinsic. We have to *want* it for reasons outside the external — there’s gotta be something more than a grand prize to push us through the end. When it’s because of an intrinsic reason [ex. wanting to become your best self mentally + physically ++ emotionally//spiritually], finishing what you started takes on a new meaning + the process itself gains more value than the end-goal alone.
#2] BE OPEN TO CHANGE. NOTHING GOES EXACTLY AS PLANNED
Before we dive into our next project, we typically have preconceived notions on how the entire process should pan out. With that said, how many times do our [plans] actually go according to plan? As things don’t go as we had anticipated, that fear begins to sneak back in. Instead of being overwhelmed by these changes, reshape your expectation. Maybe staying up late to finish a paper forced you to miss a workout + traveling home for Fall Break threw off your workout schedule once more. Instead of throwing in the towel for good, modify your goal! Perhaps, it’s easier for you to get in three workouts during the workweek instead of five. Just because they aren’t finished in the initial structure does not mean those workouts do not contribute to finishing the FitPlan. Accepting that change is inevitable + being able to bounce back with a new + improved plan will definitely help you finish any project you start.
#3] TRACK YOUR TIME. BUT ACTUALLY.
You have your goal + all the resources you need to accomplish it. So, why does it *still* seem impossible to finish? It’s true — time management is really everything. In addition to planning out the process in advance, it’s extremely crucial to track how you *actually* end up spending your time. For the planner-obsessed [+ those looking to create more structure in their daily structure], learn how to use your agenda for time-tracking as well. Every few hours, go back into your planner + record how you spent that precious time — be honest with yourself! Netflix + FB time should be properly recorded. Now, you can finally track your success + identify patterns that might explain any delay.
You’ve heard this before, haven’t you? ; ) It’s all about just getting started. When we understand that our most prized projects can be directed by fear + that procrastination is a very normal, human action [or lack thereof] — we open ourselves up for more opportunity to get things done. From here, it’s our responsibility to make the most out of our time by tracking how it’s spent + determining how to stay on track [or form an entirely new one].
The process doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to get done. So, let’s do this. Record how you spend your time during one day. Does anything surprise you?
+ Jessica [@jessicasmith_inchaarg] // VirtCHAARG NYC