How To Be Your Own Best Roommate: The Do’s + Don’ts of Living Alone
You know what they say… *home is where you pay rent* ; ). ++ for many current + soon-to-be CHAARG post-grads, nothing could be more true. While we’ve done the whole college dorm thing + squeezed too many roommates into our first apartment, we can’t help but ask ourselves: Is this really #adulting? So, as the next apartment search commences this summer, you might be thinking — why not #TreatYoself + take that studio apartment instead? Who doesn’t love a little *me time* all of the time? Aren’t we all dreaming of our Pinterest-planned, Anthropologie-covered space? *heartsineyeballzemoji*
But, before you sign that lease, we’ve got five things for you to consider before #LivingAlone. It can be perfect for some [we love it!] + not great for others, so *be your own best roommate* + make sure you choose what’s truly best for you!
1] LIVING ALONE DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE TO *BE ALONE*.
You might fear that once you have your own solo space, you’ll become a hermit, never seeking the outside. But that definitely shouldn’t be the case! Just because you don’t have roommates to come home to doesn’t mean you’re supposed to be alone or stay inside. Explore your neighborhood — crush a #sweatsesh in the local park, find your new favorite running path, + order a coffee at each local coffee shop [you’re gonna have to find your go-to spot eventually!]. ++ of course, invite your friends over to the new digs! You now have the coolest apartment ever — share it. : )
2] DON’T LET YOUR IPHONE//NETFLIX//HI-SPEED INTERNET CONNECTION BECOME YOUR NEW ROOMMATE.
When you first begin living alone, it can be all too easy to get caught up in *what was* — whether you’re constantly texting//Skyping your old roommates, continuously scrolling through social media feeds, or feel like you just can’t press *stop* on the never-ending Netflix loop. It’s natural to feel homesick at first, especially if you’ve never spent a substantial amount of time on your own. But, it’s more important to put the phone down + unplug! Take in the beauty of having your own space + #reCHAARG *yourself* first.
3] EMBRACE THE *ME TIME* + REALIZE HOW TRULY VALUABLE IT IS.
Some of the best things about living on your own? Saying goodbye to waiting for the next shower [+ rearranging your life schedule to adjust to your roommates’]. Don’t want to clean up your dirty dishes right away? No problem. You now run on your time + your time only. *Me time* no longer has to feel like chore or a task to put on the back burner. This is the *American Dream* — so, embrace it 100%! Do you + do yoga in the middle of the living room in your undies, because you can. : )
4] YOU’RE #INCHAARG OF WHO TO LET IN.
*Friends of convenience* — this is what the college dorm is made for. Trust us, we know how awesome it is to live near + with some of your best friends. Talk about always having a few closets to raid ++ girlfriends exactly when + where you need them! So, while we’ll definitely miss walking down the hall when we need to borrow a cute top or need sage life advice, there is something good about having to make the effort of reaching out that will define + deepen our friendships + our own personal growth. We discover who our real friends are, distinguishing between those who will throw you a “like” on Facebook//Instagram + those who are already on their way over to split a bottle of wine — in good times + in bad.
5] LESS HOUSE, MORE HOME.
++ finally, the greatest part of having your own solo space? Simple — it’s *yours*. Always wanted to make your own meditation corner, but never actually had a corner to yourself? Now you do! ++ no more having to label your Trader Joe’s haul in the fridge or tote your towel back + forth from the bathroom. Make this space your sanctuary + indulge yourself in everything you’ve ever wanted from your first big girl apartment [Fresh flowers? A gold bar cart? Done + done!]. Home is not a place, it’s a feeling — so make it unapologetically your own.
++Jessica [@jessicasmith_inchaarg] // VirtCHAARG NYC