#CHAARGGrad: 5 Tips for Beating Post-Grad Blues
Graduating from college is a really exciting moment in any CHAARGie’s life — but what about life after graduation? The adjustment from college student to full-time adult is challenging, often including feelings of stress, anxiety, + sadness. Feelings during this time period are totally NORMAL, we like to think of them as *post-grad blues*. These post grad blues can include: feeling extremely disorganized, lacking motivation, obsessing over social media, feeling isolated, ++ feeling as if your life is at a standstill.
After graduation, I personally began feeling many of these emotions. At first, I struggled with learning how to cope with this huge life change, but here are some tips I found helpful for me during this transition —
#1] Develop a Routine
Leaving college can be a huge environmental shock when you go from a fully loaded schedule [class, work, CHAARG, other clubs + orgs] to unlimited free time. It’s easy to become so overwhelmed with this new abundance of free time you find yourself feeling disorganized + lacking motivation. Developing a flexible routine // schedule for each day can be a great way to get yourself back on track ++ feeling motivated // organized.. I like to do this by physically writing down my ideal day on a blank sheet of paper in a timed format. You can make this as simple or as detailed as you like. For example, my morning schedule looks like this//
7AM Wake Up [Hot Lemon Water, 5 Minute Journal, ++ Social Media]
8AM Workout [M — Legs//Booty + Cardio, T — Arms, W — Abs + Cardio, Th — Arms, F — Legs//Booty + Cardio, Weekends — Yoga//Rest]
10AM Study for NCLEX [75 Practice Questions + Remediation] + Snack
Developing a standard routine//schedule has been a great way to help keep me accountable in reaching my health + fitness goals –making sure I schedule the time in to eat, exercise, ++ journal//meditate.
#2] Find Your Community
One of the best parts about college is being constantly surrounded individuals your own age, making it easier to form tight-knit communities that provide us with friendship, love, + comfort– often becoming like a second family to us. After graduation, it can be challenging to make new friends, but try to think of it as an *incredible* opportunity to meet new people as well as reconnect with old friends!
There are so many places + ways to meet new people such as joining a new workout studio, attending local meetups//events, trying using apps like VINA or Bumble BFF, ++ of course, connecting with your #CHAARGGrad community : ) Reconnect with old friends by inviting them out for coffee, meeting up to workout, or attending an event you’re nervous to go to alone! ++ don’t be afraid to meet the new friends they made while you were at college, too!
#3] Learn Something New
Feeling like you have a lot of free time on your hands? Now is the *perfect* time to try something new —
- Start that blog you’ve been dreaming up
- Take art or music lessons
- Cook//bake your way through an entire Pinterest board
- Train for your first race
- Get involved in your community with volunteer work
- Attend local events + festivals
- Try a new workout studio
- Plant a vegetable or flower garden
The world is your oyster : ) Picking up new hobbies + learning new things are not only great for filling in that extra free time in your schedule, but is also extremely beneficial for intellectual wellness.
#4] Be Mindful of Social Media
We’ve all heard it before — “Comparison is the thief of joy.” It can sometimes feel like everyone around you is constantly posting about their accomplishments on social media — internships, jobs, engagements, you name it. While we’re always happy for our friend’s achievements + milestones, it’s not unusual for us to begin to experience some negative self-talk if we are not experiencing the same successes as them. If you find yourself constantly putting yourself down, it may be a good idea to take a break from social media + spend more time with yourself. There is no *right* age or time to do anything. It’s important to recognize, social media only shows someone’s *highlight reel* so try not to compare your everyday to the best parts of others’ days. Practice mindfulness when engaging with others on social media, + remember, what others choose to post doesn’t always tell the entire story.
#5] Practice self-care + Positive self-talk
My most important [++ arguably most effective] tip to beating the post-grad blues is to practice self-care + be mindful of self-talk. We talk about self-care *A LOT* because it is extremely important. It’s also important for you to decide what self-care means to you. For me personally, self-care means getting dressed, doing my hair, + putting on my make up even though I may not have to leave the house, or painting my nails, ++ working out, especially on days I don’t want to. Self-care can mean anything, so long as it’s something that frees your mind ++ makes you feel even a little bit better.
Another form of self-care consists of speaking to ourselves with kindness. After graduation, many of us are not immediately where we want to be personally or professionally. Remember this is okay! This times leaves us plenty of room to grow + blossom into the individuals we hope to become one day.Failure is natural during this growing process, but it’s important to practice positive self-talk during these moments to stay afloat. Instead of focusing on the failure, focus on what you learned, how you can improve, ++ of course, what you did well!
Above all, know you are not alone in the way you feel. Your CHAARG community is always here to support you — throughout college ++ after! Always feel free to reach out to us on social media or by dropping a comment below to start a conversation : ) Do you have any tips on beating post-grad blues? We would love to hear from you!