It’s the first week of spring! The days are getting longer + the weather is getting warmer, ++ for most of us, we have more energy [thank you sunlight] + start to do some deep cleaning around the house // mind. Whether or not you’re a hoarder, there is something we are all guilty of hanging on to — toxic relationships. Some of these relationships are not one by choice, others are due to growing apart from friends.
If there is a relationship in your life that is toxic to you, but they are in your life for good [a sibling, parent of your partner, a co-worker], try to figure out the behavior that is toxic. Maybe they say judgmental things about what you wear or the food you are eating, or maybe they give you the cold shoulder any time you are around. Once recognized, try to talk to them about it. There is a chance that they don’t even realize what they are doing. People can’t read minds + if you are feeling uncomfortable, let them know.
If you have talked to them about this situation + they don’t feel like they have done anything wrong // don’t want to change their ways, it’s time to start distancing yourself from them. Just because they are around doesn’t mean you have to be their best friend. Be friendly + cordial, but try to busy yourself with others that are around. Be proactive in who you spend your time with. Once you stop allowing the toxic behavior to happen, it allows you to focus more on the positive relationships that are around you.
Sometimes, our toxic relationships come from friends. Although you were once attached at the hip, you grow up + grow apart. We aren’t the same people we were in high school + college, ++ that is okay. Maybe your friends want to go out but you’d rather stay in + treat yo’ self to a nice Netflix binge + a glass of wine, though both are fine, you two are just on different pages. That difference can start to cause a rift in your friendship. You don’t necessarily have to cut all ties + burn bridges, but maybe limit your time + try to do things you both enjoy doing. Never forget that it is okay if you need to let a friendship go because that relationship is no longer building you up. People walk into our lives all the time — some are meant to stay, ++ some are to teach a lesson.
As we are doing spring cleaning in every other aspect of our life, remember to surround yourself with the people who will build you up to be a better person. You can’t radiate positive vibes when a cloud is blocking your sunshine!
++ Brittany [@blind_inchaarg] // VirtCHAARG Chicago