Often, we are the only ones who get in the way of challenges that life vehemently throws at us, ++ reserving love for oneself is no easy task. We live in a world where pleasing others is our number one priority, frequently causing us to overlook the one that’s there through it all. When we wake up in the morning, we are first + foremost with ourselves. When we walk to class on a Wednesday afternoon, we are with ourselves. When we are pushing our limits + testing our strengths, we are with ourselves. Despite sometimes being our own greatest enemies, we can also be our own greatest source of inspiration. It’s true — no one can force you to get up + act on an aspiration or dream other than, yep, you : )
It is not a narcissistic or selfish act to love yourself. In fact, it’s liberating. Embracing your own uniqueness + having respect for yourself is something essential in achieving your goals, living life to the fullest, + being your happiest self. You — yes, you! — are amazing, incredible, + deserve all the love in the world. So, give yourself a cute little hug [is that possible?], + try out the following —
1] TREAT YOURSELF
Allow yourself time to get lost in your favorite hobby — read that book you’ve been putting off, splurge on that fancy red dress, do anything that will make you happy, even in the simplest forms. A little time for yourself is incredibly important in helping you unwind + clear your head. Plus, rewarding yourself reminds you of all the things you’ve achieved.
2] CLEAR YOUR MIND
Comparing oneself to someone else can quickly become a devilish mantra in our self-consciousness. Life is not a competition + you have nothing to gain from constantly comparing yourself to others. However, you do have much to lose — your drive, your motivation, + your self-love. If you’re going to compare yourself to anyone, compare yourself to you! There’s nothing wrong with challenging yourself, pushing yourself for improvement, + becoming the best possible version of you.
3] FORGIVE YOURSELF
Although the past is the past, there’s always a way to get back into the game + the first step is to forgive yourself. It’s a challenging task but it’s crucial in truly loving yourself + overcoming internal obstacles. Forgiving yourself of past mistakes will give you the ability to turn the page with no weight on your back.
To achieve self-love, you need to fuel your inner dialogue with a positive, encouraging #CHAARG mantra. Be your own best friend when you have to + when you want to.. Get creative + follow your passions ++ never hold yourself to ordinary standards. Love yourself every single day <3
“When a woman becomes her own best friend, life is easier.” // Diane von Furstenberg
+ Becca [@becc_inchaarg] // [UMD CHAARG]