This #CHAARGSBFP is all about self love, but loving yourself comes with the intention of loving others more deeply. We look to care for others in the roles they play in our lives — our partners, our friends, our family members, our classmates, + our mentors. This year, how we can we share our love + compassion to them directly?
Try not to listen with the intent of responding or reacting. Instead, listen to others with the intention of understanding their feelings + needs. What aren’t they saying directly into words? You could directly ask how to help // love them, or you could listen carefully for what they don’t necessarily say forthright. Sometimes, all people need are a loving, listening ear.
Even though it’s so simple, a hug can make someone’s day. Any kind of gentle touch is naturally reassuring, ++ a hug is a great way to relax, feel secure, + be happier. You may see your friends often, but hugs seldom go unappreciated : )
It’s easy to stay in constant communication by texting, but sometimes actually hearing each other’s voices can be the best way to devote your time to your loved one + talk. Skype + FaceTime make it so easy to stay in touch from long-distance, so try not to let texting overtake your relationships. Call up your fave person this Valentine’s Day + remind them how much you care.
A meal shared is always a great bonding experience + way to connect. Think about the best meals you’ve had — have they been with others? Treat someone you love to a delicious meal or treat + show them how much you appreciate them!
Compliment your loved ones on things they think might go unnoticed. Has your best friend been crushing her classes semester? Remind her how smart she is + how much you praise her. Has your partner recently mastered a new skill? Congratulate him or her on their determination + drive. It’s easy to compliment someone on their outfit or a picture — see how you can dig deeper + compliment their true selves.
6] GIVE SPACE
Everyone expresses + needs love in different ways, so don’t be afraid to give your loved ones space. If they are particularly stressed or overwhelmed, encourage them, but allow them time to overcome their own obstacles. Treat them how they need to be treated in the moment.
++ Mary K