When expressing gratitude and love, you may realize that people express it in different ways. You may realize that you like to express it in particular ways of your own too, and other people don’t reciprocate or don’t always understand your ways [like why you send chocolate after long weeks — not that we’re complaining! ; )]. This is because we all speak different love languages. While typically associated with romantic relationships, love languages are applicable to all relationships between friends, family, colleagues, ++ even Bolt Babes! Once you figure out your own preferred love languages, you will be more aware of others’ + help everyyyyone feel da love <3
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
This love language is expressing your affection through words, whether spoken or typed. Whether it’s telling someone you love or appreciate them, or praising them for whateva they rock at, words of affirmation can help boost confidence + express your love. Some people need to be actually told they’re being thought about, ++ others don’t even need text messages to feel loved. It never hurts to state your love, but it’s good to know if you or others desire it more.
ACTS OF SERVICE
Another language of love is physically acting upon your love, whether it’s helping with homework, giving you a ride, or volunteering at your fundraiser. Donating your time can be an effective way to prove your love, but others might not feel inclined to do so, either if they’re more introverted + shy, or simple because they’re not accustomed to this. Still, it’s always good to help out a loved one + prove that you truly are always there for them.
Some people express their love through gifts. Gifts don’t have to be anything extravagant — maybe you simply love giving your friends chocolate on their *big* days! This can be difficult if someone doesn’t speak the same language back. Gift-giving doesn’t necessarily have to be mutual since love-giving is not always equal, as long as you know what means the most to them : )
Sometimes, the easiest way to show your love is spending QT with them. Running errands, watching a movie, or even hanging out in the same room together are all ways that spending time together can be beneficial in showing affection. Still, some people can be especially busy + stressed, so saying yes to *me-time* + no to QT isn’t always a bad thing. Recognizing your loved ones’ needs is as important as acting upon them.
We all know how beneficial a good hug can be! However, some friends may not like physical touch as much, so try not to take it personally if that’s simply not their way to express love. Then again, others may love holding hands or cuddling. It’s different for everyone!
Everyone expresses love in different ways, so it’s important to consider + acknowledge everyone’s unique love languages depending on the time, circumstances, + reason. Being able to communicate what you need + how you want to express your love can improve relationships with all of your favorite people in life.
*The greatest thing you will ever is just to love + be loved in return.* <3
++ Mary K