Being alone is often connected to loneliness. But, you’re never actually alone — you always have yourself. We don’t need someone else to validate how smart we are, how pretty we are, or anything else at all. We will always have ourselves to rely on. Spending some time alone // being independent for a change can allow time for personal growth + encourage self-reliance.
Of course, it’s not a bad thing to rely on others occasionally, but becoming too dependent is an easy recipe for disaster. An important part of growing up is figuring out how to become an independent individual. You have to be able to rely on yourself when no one else is around [even if that means learning from their own, countless mistakes!]. When you are on your own, you can discover so many things about yourself that you may not have known —
When the degree of your happiness depends on on those around you, it’s easy to forget about the importance of dedicating time + love for yourself [away from others!]. Having a newfound independence can be incredibly helpful for personal + mental development. It’ll give you the opportunity to find yourself // your passions, all on your own time ++ at your own place.
FIND YOUR HAPPINESS
The saying goes that happiness comes from within — + it’s true. Finding this light within yourself means that you’ll always be able to channel it, no matter where the other people in your life are. This means that your happiness, no matter the hurdles you come by, will always be yours to take.
PERSONAL GROWTH // SUCCESS
Spending time on your own is valuable time for working on furthering your own success, whether that be practicing self-love or getting ahead of the game in school // your job. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with a team effort, but doing things alone will give you an opportunity to learn, boost your confidence, + instill a sense of self-importance.
IT WILL GIVE YOU TIME TO DO WHAT YOU WANT // CLEAR YOUR MIND
There are endless activities that are really enjoyable on your own — free from the pressures + distractions of others. Take a walk in the park, head to the gym, go out for dinner — the great thing about being alone is that no one can tell you otherwise. If you want to go see a movie by yourself, go for it! This time is for you. Take it in + clear your mind // let your thoughts flow. Be self-aware + appreciate the little things in life to reduce your stress + improve overall quality of life.
FIND YOUR OWN STRENGTH
When adversity comes knocking at your door, you’ll have no choice but to be tough when you’re on your own [but you got this! ; )]. You are perpetually reliable to yourself +you’ll be able to learn from your mistakes ++ pick yourself up when you fall.
Taking responsibility for your own life is certainly a scary thought, but it can be incredibly gratifying. When you start to realize that you can, in fact, face life’s challenges + hurdle through them, you’ll gain confidence in both yourself + your decision making skills. The best advice is to go with your gut ++ not overthink. Remember that you have the ability to change your whole life around if you choose to walk that path. You will never know your own strengths until you face problems head on, + give it your all.
MAKE YOUR OWN RULES
When you’re on your own, there is no specific pace to follow. There are no binding expectations + pressures to live up to. It’s fairly simple when you’re on your own — If you want something in life, you go ahead + get it [no permission or companion required!]. There’s something liberating about living life to the beat of your own drums– + I hope that we can all find that liberation.
*Plant your own garden + decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.* // Mario Quintana
Being alone takes courage, but It’s normal + okay. In fact, it’s a great thing if you know how to to take advantage of the alone time. What’s important is that you don’t need others to live your life the way you want to, + you certainly don’t need others to tell you how strong // amazing you are. Becoming more independent + self-reliant is an incredible journey towards achieving self love + self acceptance, + is something that everyone should experience at one point in life. : )
+ Becca [@becc_inchaarg] // [UMD CHAARG]