“Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage.” // Brene Brown
When it comes to vulnerability, most of us have probably never experienced it by choice. Often, we are forced into it when we are in an argument, or when we are asking for help, which is what gives vulnerability such a negative connotation.
Vulnerability requires overall + overwhelming *acceptance* of ourselves. Some of us are more insecure than others, but we would imagine that there are some things that even the most confident CHAARG girls wouldn’t be extremely willing to share. If you want to be vulnerable by choice — you’ve got to love *every part* of yourself.
Our strengths, our weaknesses, our interests + our past — all of it is up for debate when we choose vulnerability.
BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF
Keep tabs on your emotions + your actions. View each note as its own sign + identify with it. Even when you find yourself making mistakes or acting in self-destructive ways, note those. The road to acceptance starts with being honest with yourself.
FORGET WHAT YOU KNOW
Vulnerability does not equal weakness. We can still be strong + be open. We can still be blunt or honest + be outgoing. You do open yourself up to being hurt, but you also open your heart to more satisfying connections + bonds. Imagine how great it feels when those in your life say, *I saw this + thought of you!* It is the same feeling when people say, *I know you went through this hard time, so . . .* or *I want to help you because . . .*
STOP CONTROLLING — START LETTING YOURSELF BE *SEEN*
In order to make the best connections, we need to let ourselves be seen. Jump into relationships where you’re unsure, be the first to say what everyone is thinking + say things that spark mindful conversation — good or bad. Stop fearing rejection, embrace the challenge. Ask for help when you’re afraid.
Living wholeheartedly makes you more emotionally available, improving all relationships. When you open your heart to others + share more, you are in turn more honest + accepting of your own authentic self. It opens doors that you would otherwise close off. Practice *vulnerability* to grow.
+ Abigail [@abigail.inchaarg] // UK CHAARG