Our schedules are packed with class, work, meetings + more, making it more difficult to maintain our friendships. Sometimes it seems easier to shoot our girls a quick *miss you!* text rather than actually planning a get-together. We’ve got you covered when it comes to maintaining friendships with your busy, adulting schedule:
1] PLAN FOR EASY + CONVENIENT MEET-UP LOCATIONS
For those of us who live off-campus, this can make a huge difference. Chances are, you + your friend will have at least one day where you’re on campus at the same time. Ask her to walk to class with you or even walk to campus together. Twenty minutes walking to + from can give you time to catch up with one another + make the walk fly by Make it doable for both of you by meeting up at a place that’s convenient + can easily fit into your schedules.
2] EAT WITH A FRIEND AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK
Try planning your week so that at least one of your meals is spent with a friend. You can even make it the same day each week, giving you something to look forward to : ) Everyone’s gotta eat + eating alone is never as much fun as eating with a friend. Taco Tuesday anyone?!
3] MAKE FRIENDS WITH THE GIRLS IN YOUR CLUBS [like CHAARG!]
Being friends with people you’re guaranteed to see at least once a week makes it that much easier to spend quality time together. This also gives you a group of girls to go to events, study + workout with. Your CHAARG girls will surround you with positivity — something we could all use a little more of when we’re hustling + bustling throughout the week.
4] BE A BETTER LISTENER
As tempting as Twitter can be, make sure that when you’re spending time with friends, you aren’t simply staring at your screen. You only have so much time with someone, so be present + mindful. Try putting your phone//computer away + really listen to what your friends are saying. Nodding + *uh-huh-ing* isn’t as meaningful as giving some well-thought-out advice.
5] REMEMBER IT’S OKAY TO SAY NO
If your friend asks you to hang out + you know you should be studying or already have a prior commitment, realize that it’s okay to say no + take a rain check. If you have a prior commitment, don’t force something that may add more stress to your life in the long run. Make sure you’re planning times that work with not only your friends’ schedule, but yours as well.
6] KILL TWO BIRDS WITH ONE STONE
Need to study? Ask your friend to help you out! Chances are she needs to too. Grocery shopping, working out + meal prepping can all be done with a friend. You’ll be spending quality time together while also checking things off of your to-do list!
7] TELL YOUR FRIENDS YOU’RE THINKING OF THEM
We often underestimate the power within small compliments. When you’ve had a long day, some encouraging words can work wonders on your mood. If you see something that makes you think of someone, tell them! If you see a cute dog that you know they’d love, snap them a pic. If you remember something they’ve confided in you + want to check in on them, ask them how they’re doing. It’s always nice to know that someone is thinking of you. This is a great way to keep in touch + start convos with the friends you don’t get to see as often as you’d like.
8] MAKE TIME FOR THOSE WHO HAVE A POSITIVE IMPACT ON YOUR LIFE
Sometimes the idea of losing touch can be unnerving. But really, drifting apart from certain people is simply a part of life. It’s okay to not be friends with everyone you’ve ever met. Make time for those who have continuously supported + encouraged you — if a friend is no longer making a positive impact on your life, it may be time to reevaluate your friendship. Remember that those who love + care about you will always be there when you need them!
We understand that sometimes it seems as though there are not enough hours in the day, making it harder to maintain your friendships. By remembering these eight tips, we think you’ll find that task a little bit easier. It’s okay to lose touch, but try not to lose sight of those who hold an important place in your life : )
++ Katie Kochanny (kk_inchaarg) // Michigan State University