While college + early adulthood can be both exciting + rewarding, it may also be the most stressful years of your life. Learning to balance classwork, homework, + projects with jobs, internships, day-to-day responsibilities [cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, + more!], + especially for CHAARGies, working out, is incredibly difficult.
In any stressful situation, you’ll usually hear people telling you to take some *me-time* for yourself. This could mean anything from taking yourself shopping to taking a hot shower, but it’s whatever makes you happy + pulls you away from your stress for a few moments. When you’re in college or when , *me-time* can be hard to come by, especially if you live with roommates.
Sometimes, we need to recognize that, even though we mean no offense to our roommates, we need to show ourselves some self-love. Besides, our days are often full of classes, meetings, work shifts, + studying — it’s nothing personal against your roomies, but sometimes, you want to come home to an empty, quiet room to unwind. So how can you find time to relax when you have to share a tiny room or apartment with other girls?
1] HEADPHONES + MUSIC
There’s nothing wrong with lying on your bed, listening to some calming music, + drifting away for a bit. There’s also no shame in telling your roomies that you’re going to lay down for a little while — they’ll most likely be completely understanding + respect your privacy.
Creating a calm, quiet atmosphere for yourself, even for a few minutes, is a great way to practice some self-love. If music doesn’t relax you, try one of the many meditation apps. Focusing on meditation + breathing will help calm yourself down + pull you away from the constant hustle of college + life.
2] PLAN HOW YOU’LL COMMUNICATE
When you first move in, talk to your new roommates about when their classes are, what their schedules will be like, + when they plan on being in the room. Not only will this avoid conflict getting ready in the morning, but you can figure out when you’ll have the room to yourself. If you have about an hour or so to yourself between classes on some days, make a habit of making yourself a cup of tea, kicking up your feet, + pulling out a good book instead of studying to give yourself a relaxing break while your roomies are out.
3] DON’T LIMIT *ME-TIME* TO YOUR ROOM
The time you spend unwinding after a long day doesn’t have to be spent in your room. Find a quiet spot in the library + sit down with a book, go to a local coffee shop + treat yourself to a yummy blueberry muffin, or even go to the gym + get a sweat sesh in. Your room could sometimes be a distracting + stressful place, since all your school books are there + could remind you of what’s stressing you out. Be kind to yourself, do whatever you want to do wherever you want to do it + separate yourself from the stress.
Your roommates are often your automatic first friends in college, so spend some time with them + treat them with respect — after all, you girls do have to share a room for nine months. But wanting some *me-time* is perfectly understandable, + especially when you’re a busy college student or hard-working young adult, it’s totally needed. Balance is key when it comes to working + relaxing, so make sure you set aside time for both.
++ Ashleigh Monaco [ashvm_inchaarg] // University of Iowa