When we search for motivation, it’s easy to look to someone else’s lifestyle + begin to wish we had their body, their drive, or their workout clothes + their pantry — causing us to look down at our own life. But comparing ourselves + our journey to others is detrimental to our self confidence. It is ineffective, all while consuming time + headspace with negative thoughts. When you’re too hard on yourself, you can actually lose motivation + make it harder to reach your goals. We cannot gain anything from comparing ourselves to others — we only lose our drive, passion, + happiness.
When we are being hard on ourselves in comparison to others rather than learning or getting inspired, we’re only setting ourselves back. Here are three reasons why you should love your journey + not compare it to others.
Your story matters. Everything that you have gone through, the talents you possess, the stories you tell, or that moment that you *identify* with makes your journey unique. Hardships or roadblocks that you overcome along the way are worth recognizing + considering when taking self-inventory — they make you stronger + give you experiences that push you forward in the end. By changing your perspective on what makes your journey different, you’ll find that what is important to you may not be the same for others + vice versa. Viewing a difference between you + someone else as what makes your story beautiful will help you to inspire + get inspired, rather than ruminate in bad vibes.
EVERYONE IS AT A DIFFERENT STAGE
When we compare ourselves to others, we aren’t gathering the full picture — comparisons don’t take into account our differences + the different stages of our life or journey we are on. Think of a time where you’ve discovered that someone you know + love is really struggling, we never truly know what someone else is going through, even when everything may *seem* okay. When we fail to include the highs + the lows that are likely present in others lives + in our own, we are doing ourselves a huge disservice + only breaking ourselves down.
SOCIAL MEDIA IS NOT REAL LIFE
In today’s world, Instagram + other forms of social media are a staple in most girls everyday life + fitness journey. They can be amazing for logging accomplishments + holding yourself accountable, but we have all been faced with the losing battle of always viewing someone’s *highlight reel* ++ comparing them to our *behind the scenes*. The edited version of our realities is all that is present on socials. It isn’t fair to you to judge yourself based on others, especially without all of the information. This creates a world that is always unfair, you’ll never be satisfied if you’re working to reach a social media lifestyle.
Throughout your journey, remember to focus on yourself, your core priorities + your values. Comparing your journey to others puts the focus on the wrong person. When you find yourself wavering + comparing your day to theirs, ask yourself what *you* can do to become more productive + start the next chapter in your journey. Dedicate your valuable time + energy to the positives — what does success look like for you? What can you learn? Rather than looking at what those around you have accomplished for comparison, focus on the changes *you* make to your own journey moving forward to become the best version of yourself.
+Abigail [@abigail.inchaarg] // UK CHAARG