One of the best feelings in the world is waking up feeling totally in love with who you are. Feeling empowered + unstoppable is undeniably a wonderful thing. But some days, we wake up feeling the exact opposite. When we’re unhappy with what we see in the mirror, we usually start to get down on ourselves, we judge our *flaws* + the negative self-talk begins.
Whether we realize it or not, this negative self-talk is quite a detriment to our health. Studies show that negative self-talk often leads to higher stress levels, anxiety, + even depression or eating disorders. However, that research also shows that positive self-talk has many beneficial effects on your health. Some of these health benefits include a stronger immune system + increased life span — all the more reason to be nice to yourself ; ).
The moment you catch yourself speaking negatively about your body, capabilities or your worth — pause. Turning the negatives into positives is a critical step to find self-love + the outcomes can change your life! Try changing your perspective with these positive swaps:
1] INSTEAD OF SAYING “I FEEL FAT TODAY”…
Tell yourself, “I’m not as happy with how I look or feel today as I was yesterday.” Once you acknowledge these feelings, ask yourself why you think your body image has shifted overnight. Are outside factors affecting your mood? Have you worked out today, drank enough water, eaten any fruits or veggies? Do things that you know will help your body feel good — as a result, you’ll boost your mood + self-confidence.
2] INSTEAD OF SAYING ‘I WAS BAD TODAY BECAUSE I ATE X’…
Try instead, “My body doesn’t feel as well as it could today.” Often times, we label our behavior as *good* or *bad* depending on our menu for the day — but this perpetuates negative self-talk. Eating all fruits, veggies + lean meats does not make you *good* + eating chips at lunch does not make you *bad* either. Instead, identify what foods make your body + mind feel//perform best — you will be more likely to make choices that leave your body feeling strong + healthy. ++ Of course, indulging now + then is not the end of the world! ; )
3] INSTEAD OF SAYING “I SUCK AT X”…
Remember, “Progress, not perfection.” We all have to start off somewhere, + not all aspects of a well-rounded, healthy lifestyle will come naturally to us. There will always be areas in life that you’ll have to work harder at than others. Maybe you’re a speedy runner, but have to modify yoga poses. Or, perhaps you’re great at writing, but not the best in math. Rather than comparing yourself to someone else who is more advanced in a certain area or immediately giving up, make it a goal to become better. Instead of dwelling on your current abilities, acknowledge the progress you are determined to make + celebrate every milestone!
4] INSTEAD OF SAYING “I WOULD BE HAPPY IF ONLY MY BODY LOOKED LIKE THIS”…
Say, “I may not love every part of my body, but only I am in control of my happiness.” Penn State CHAARG Ambassador Alyssa Ardolino [@thebusybee_] shared a beautiful quote at the #CHAARGRetreat15 which explains this to a tee,
“I HAVE COME TO THE FRIGHTENING CONCLUSION THAT I AM THE DECISIVE ELEMENT. IT IS MY PERSONAL APPROACH THAT CREATES THE CLIMATE. IT IS MY DAILY MOOD THAT MAKES THE WEATHER. I POSSESS TREMENDOUS POWER TO MAKE LIFE MISERABLE OR JOYOUS.”
Regardless of the shape of your body or the number on the scale, YOU have the power to choose your happiness. Love yourself for who you are.
5] INSTEAD OF SAYING “I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH”…
Remind yourself, “I’m not where I want to be, yet + that’s okay.” Commit to taking the steps to get closer to your goals. Again, only you have the power to become your best self — negative self-talk//self-doubt will not get you there. ++ Remember — you are always enough.
Talking down to ourselves is a difficult habit to break, but it’s a necessity for reaching the greatness you’re destined for. Believe it when we say, you are beautiful, you can do this + you will be okay.
+xo Natalie [@natalie_inchaarg], VirtCHAARG girl from Grand Rapids
+ Photography // Kaitlyn Bowman [@kaitb_inchaarg]