Your early 20s are the time for growth + change — whether you’re #inCHAARG at your school, virtually, or post-grad, you know that independence can be scary. It comes with so many highs + lows, each teaching us a lesson — one of which is learning to be alone. Moving for a program//job or sacrificing a night out for a study sesh is common at this stage in our lives — how to we be alone + enjoy it?
Whether you’re moving 4000 miles away or you’re simply looking to take more time for yourself, here’s our advice for loving being alone —
Practice mindfulness — say whaaa?! Being present + mindful is *key* to loving your alone time. Loneliness can easily creep up when you’re spending more time alone — avoid it by remaining in the present. Loneliness is a feeling, not a fact. It is usually comes from your past + you’re missing a moment or a happier memory, making you feel isolated in the present. Stop looking back — free yourself from distractions + focus on what’s happening right now.
Embracing your alone time is the best part of alone time — let your hair down, gurl ; ) No one knows you better than you, ++ you can be your own best friend. Take advantage of the fact that you get to do what you want to do, without catering to anyone else. Do something fun, like watch your favorite movie [that you’ve seen way too many times], or something productive, like starting that passion project you’ve been daydreaming about. Engage yourself in something you love — you deserve it!
DON’T OVERDO YOUR SOCIALS
Social media FOMO is a real thing, bebes. Rather than connecting you to others as intended, it can make you feel like you’re missing out on life when you’re away from your friends or family. Be conscious of how scrolling through Insta is making you feel when you’re spending time alone. Your *behind the scenes* will be no match for others’ highlight reel. Remember why you chose to move away or take a night off from the social scene when FOMO strikes — you are exactly where you need to be : )
If you’re alone for an extended period of time [like studying abroad or going to grad school], take advantage of the amount of time you have to better yourself! Treat yourself well — maybe start a new workout regimen or pick up a new hobby that you love. Fill your newfound alone time with something that makes you love yourself even more. A lot of us don’t really *know* ourselves — the best way to get to know who you are is through trying new things + trying them alone!
You’re independent + you’re you. Own your alone time + be grateful for it!
+Abigail [@abigail.inchaarg] // UK CHAARG